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גברים שימו לב, והפנימו: נשים מרגישות טוב יותר כשהן מוצמאות.

Although this might seem like a "duh" statement to many people, one Kansas State University student spent $500 and a year to learn more about it.

"I think the part that most people don't think of is that it only took one compliment to make the women in the study feel better," said Courtney Fea, 29, the KSU master's grad who completed the project. "And it didn't matter if they were complimented on their body or who they were as a person."

New York women said yesterday that they emphatically agree with Fea's findings.

"Of course everybody likes hearing good things about themselves," said Vanessa Graves, 22, who was visiting Manhattan from New Jersey. "Especially women."

So what do women want to hear?

For Sally Grandons, a 59-year-old facilities manager in Manhattan, it's all about accessories.

"I like it when people go for something specific. Like 'nice raincoat' or 'nice watch.' Something that I had to decide," Grandons said.

Other women, like Petty Officer 3rd Class Christina Eastburn, who is on leave from the aircraft carrier John F. Kennedy this week, said that she's more of a people person.

"My favorite compliment is when people say that I'm a blast to hang out with. That we have fun together," Eastburn said.

Some women don't care what the compliment is, as long as they hear one.

"I pretty much like all of them," said Emily Atkins, 31, a marketing agent from Brooklyn. "Just throw 'em at me."

According to Pat Copas, a 44-year-old Marriott employee from Queens, the bottom line is that the compliments have to happen.

"Just get it through your heads — women need to hear that stuff," she said. "Just keep saying it. My guy does a good job of complimenting. I'm lucky."

Despite seeming like common sense, Fea's study has received national recognition by several psychological conferences. Yesterday morning, Fea was getting ready to fly to Los Angeles to speak to the American Psychological Society.

"I hope people hear about this study, because think of the difference it could make in the lives of parents with daughters," Fea said. "If a mother told her daughter something like 'thanks' every day, she could help her daughter get through the typical teenage problems."

HER WORDS

Sailor Christina Eastburn, 21: "My favorite compliment is when people say that I'm a blast to hang out with."

Sally Grandons, 59: "I like it when people go for something specific. Like 'nice raincoat' or 'nice watch.' Something that I had to decide."

Sheena Gneco, 21, a recent college graduate from Manhattan: "It doesn't matter what they say as long as they mean it. If they don't mean it, it's worthless."

Emily Atkins, 31: "I pretty much like all of them. Just throw 'em at me."

Originally published on May 29, 2005

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